Jul 26

A Piece of Advice on Who to Trust at Work

You shared how frustrated you are about your job and how much you hate your boss to your most trusted co-worker. The next day, it just came to your surprise that all of your colleagues knew about it even your boss and now, you’re the newest subject of local gossip. Then the reality slap you in the face, you have just been betrayed. Trust is dead. It is now being replaced by a more relatable word: Distrust.

When we become victims of trust in bad faith, we turn into careful mode than relationship oriented behavior. How careful should I be in working with these people becomes more of a concern than how can I build a meaningful and satisfying working relationship? Such shifting of conceptual behavior impacts the way we do business with the people around us in the company.

A person’s position or role doesn’t indicate their trustworthiness. A top executive is not automatically worthy of more or less trust compared to someone in a rank-and-file position. Same thing goes with family and friends; trust has something to do about individuals.

But how easily can you get a hint on which individuals to trust? Should you trust or distrust this person? Here are some guidelines to help you determine those you should never put your guards down for:

People who share stories that aren’t theirs to tell:
Be mindful of those who reveal statements, stories or conversations which they are not the right person to do so. This behavior reflects how they manage the trust that was given to them by the other person they’re talking about with you, right now. If they can do it to others, what can keep them from doing it to you?

People whose words and actions don’t match:
This are those who seem to take your side, affirm your sentiments and agree with every single word you say and yet, when you are not with them, they do and say otherwise. It can be a little strange and worth considering for.

People who are strongly against issues but never do anything at all:
People who fall under this category are quite similar to the previous one, the only difference is they never do anything about it. It is worth taking into account that if a person is truly concerned against a certain matter, he is going to take an action to correct it and make it more suitable for him. Underlying reasons for being unable to put words into actions could be due to many reasons but for what it’s worth, there’s still inconsistency right there.

Whether it’s an era of trust or not, choosing to trust or distrust a person calls for a good judgement and time. At the end of the day, it’s about why, when and to whom it is individually and rightfully given that identifies its negative or positive outcome. As Chris Chew wrote on his article on stjobs.sg, trust is considered an important currency as it is the medium that connects our relationship with others.

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